How to Maintain Etiquette During a Breakup

 How to Maintain Etiquette During a Breakup

Breakup etiquette is sometimes hard to follow. Of course it would be easy to send an email or text message stating that the relationship is over, but it is the wrong way to treat a person. Courtesy requires you to do the right thing.

Instructions

1 - Speak face to face, if possible

Although breakups are uncomfortable, they require you to be sensitive, and this is best accomplished in person.

2 - Make a phone call if you can't meet

 Long distance relationships may be ended by phone.

3 - Be honest about your reason for ending the relationship without laying blame.

Sometimes it is easier to lay the blame on the other person or bring up specific issues. However, letting the other person know that the relationship is not working out for you without bringing up specifics is a better way to go.

4 - Allow the other person to ask questions and react to the news

A relationship is made up of two people, and both deserve the right to talk when it is ending. Answer questions honestly and but don't engage in arguments if the conversation becomes too heated. 

5 - Give each other time to heal

It is hard to stop talking to someone you have been in a relationship with, but it makes the breakup even harder to get over if you continue talking.

Tips & Warnings

 If you want to have a continued, platonic relationship after your breakup, you must give yourself time away from each other before attempting a friendship.

Emotions run high during a break up and time away from each other is the only way to eventually have a friendship. Take at least two months off with no or minimial contact.

How to Make Sense of a Breakup

have you ever wondered how to make sense of your breakup? When a relationship breaks up it's always difficult. For example, how to make sense of a breakup is more meaningful if you try to look back on the positives of that relationship.

Relationships do come to an end quickly these days and those are things that we all have to rationalize, but, would you be better off if you never had the relationship or do you have fun, beautiful memories and experiences from having that relationship? 

Make sense of a breakup by looking at the positive moments.

Famous author, Miriam Williamson writes about relationships and she talks about the fact that what would be missing if that person was never in your life? So rather than focus on the negative of losing that person, relish on the gift of having that person in your life and remember the good parts that go with it.

How much more have you grown as a person by knowing that person in your life? The other thing that you might want to look at and haven't considered is what contributed to the breakup. Are there personal traits of yourself that can be change? 

So there's a lot of insights that need to be drawn from this, both in the positives of the relationship, but also, in the aspects of yourself that may need to be worked on for future relationships. All persons are said to come into our lives to teach us something, to teach us a lesson. 

So be open-minded and be receptive to that lesson and then be ready to move forward to do a better job in the next relationship. So, basically that's how you make sense of a breakup. Good luck.