How to Move on From a Breakup

 How to Move on From a Breakup

Breaking up is hard to do. This is true no matter what your age is, or how long the relationship lasted. The reasons for breaking up are as varied as each relationship, but it is possible to move on from a breakup and go on living.

Instructions

1 - Have no visual or vocal contact with the other person

 This may be hard if you are in the same work place, or have children together, but make this a top priority. Unless you absolutely have to have contact, don't.

2 - Stop talking about your ex

 In order to move on after a breakup, you have to stop thinking about them, but that isn't a possibility for a long time. Help yourself by keeping conversations geared toward other things.

3 - Give yourself credit for trying

 No one is perfect, and that means both of you had to add to the reasons for the breakup. The last thing you need to do is beat yourself up over what you did wrong.

4 - Picture the day when you are completely over them

Move on after a breakup by using the power of your brain to speed the process. It is like picturing the perfect golf swing, picture it and it will come.

5 - Lean on your friends

They are there for you no matter what, and lean on them to help you clear your head. This does not mean dump on them about the relationship, it just means that you should continue living and having fun.

6 - Learn from the life lesson

There will be a lot of time spent thinking about different aspects of the relationship, either good or bad, and the best thing to do is to use them both to grow as a person and as a partner.

7 - Treat yourself

Help yourself by getting a new outfit, haircut or make-over. The old saying is true, you feel better when you look great. It is also a wonderful spring board to getting back in the dating pool.

How to Move on With Closure After a Breakup

When you've battled a break up, bitter or not, you know you have to move on. No matter if it's meeting someone new the next day or spending the next few months warding off relationships, eventually you have to move forward. However, if you and your ex have some unfinished business that seem to keep remnants of the relationship lingering in your life, seek closure so your move on is a success.

Instructions

1 - Determine what about your past relationship is hindering you from moving on

 Perform a mental scan of areas in your life that seem to be held back because of your past relationship. Try to identify which unresolved issues can be taken care of by one final meeting with your ex.

2 - Seek closure

 Give back all of your ex's stuff, have one final chat about whatever is bothering you and make it clear to your ex that this is the end. Make a clear and complete attempt to rid yourself of all the old vibes from your past relationship so that you don't have any feelings or questions hovering.

3 - Begin to move on

 Get engaged in activities that interest you such as fitness, cooking or simply hanging out with your friends. Take the time to do something you've wanted or needed to do, such as cleaning out your closets or getting a new haircut.

4 - Push away thoughts that may resurface regarding your ex

Teach yourself to get over it by redirecting your attention and efforts toward those things that are positive for you. Avoid communicating with your ex if there's nothing tying you two together, such as a child.

5 - Get back on the horse by dating other people

 Explore traits in others that you find attractive and get to know someone new. Give yourself a chance to learn what is important to you in a relationship and seek those things before getting serious or spending too much time with someone new. Move out and on with your life after a break-up.